December 30, 2012
I can’t believe Christmas is over for another year, the time has just flown by. Of course my being very beforehand meant the whole affair sort of took me off guard. I did manage to enjoy the day though, and some time with my family. I didn’t get to spend time with the friends that I wanted to unfortunately, but you can’t have everything. I am now safely back in my little flat, with Paul and my kitten Didi. It has been so long that I haven’t even been able to write to you about the little edition to our household.
A photo I took of Didi for our Round Robin letter
Didi came to me the Friday before my birthday, as a surprise. Paul got her from another family who were no longer able to have her so she was already 19 weeks old. She settled in quickly though, and seems attached to me and P. She follows us all over the house, and likes to be close to one of us all the time. Didi acts crazy (and I mean crazy) part of the time, racing and racing around the room, but she’ll also happily sit in bed with me for hours on end or snuggle up for nap time. The perfect temperament for us.
Didi is black with lots of white dots and strips on her belly. The best part of her fur though is that she has little white socks. So cute. She also likes posing for pictures, and responds to her name as dutifully as a dog. My mood has improved greatly since Didi came to live with us and I don’t feel as lonely anymore, that was exactly P’s plan of course.
The three of us are spending new year’s eve together tomorrow at home. I’m still feeling very fragile health wise, and a little knocked for six after Christmas so anything high energy was off the cards, I might not even stay up until midnight. I’m not a huge fan of new year’s eve, but it seems a bit sad to do nothing so we’re planning on getting some fruity treats, doing a puzzle and watching some films. The good thing about NYE is that you feel as though you have to re-assess your life and the last year. Instead of allowing myself to be depressed by all the things I haven’t been able to do because of my illness, I am going to list all the great and wonderful things that have happened this year and thank God for them.
How are you celebrating NYE?
Love Katie x
June 11, 2012
I know he’s turning 21 but Toy Story 3 wrapping paper rocks
It’s not just this week I plan on celebrating Paul though. Next week is carers week, which is not an official celebration, it’s probably intended to be more of an awareness thing, but I think it should become a week when carers are celebrated and honoured. Heck, they deserve it. Any person who voluntarily gives up so much to care for another person in need deserves to be honoured for that.
Here is a cross stitch picture of our goldfish Amelie. I know I need to iron out the crease.
I have been trying to think of creative ways to honour all that Paul does for me. Obviously I can’t take over his role for a week because if I could he wouldn’t need to do it in the first place.
If you know someone who is a carer, here are some great ways you can bless them, not only next week but any time:
- Cook a meal and deliver it to the house for them to re-heat, you have no idea what a relief it would be for Paul not to have to a cook a meal for once on top of everything else.
- Offer to do cleaning for them. Most carers don’t have the energy to actually do stuff like dusting so it’d make a nice change for both the person being cared for and the carer to have a clean house.
- Give them a voucher or take them out for the day. I REALLY hope Paul and I manage to do this.
- Give them a gift, everyone loves getting gifts, especially when there’s no reason for it.
- Offer to be the carer for an hour or a whole day. I used to find this offer a little bit offensive because I felt like people thought that Paul would be desperate to get away from me, but now I actually agree that it would be good for him to have some time to himself. I encourage him to do it all the time, but I guess he feels anxious about leaving me on my own.
- Bake them a celebratory cake to show them how valued what they do is.
- Make them a card/write a letter to them telling them how great they are.
- Get them a voucher for a coffee shop or restaurant which will encourage them to go out and have a treat.
If you have any other ideas, please share them in the comments box below.
Love Katie x
June 4, 2012
On 11th June Paulie turns 21. Although it doesn’t actually gain you more legal rights in the UK, it still feels like a big marker- the beginning of adulthood. I cannot think of a better excuse to spoil Paul, although in his characteristically selfless way P has said he doesn’t want me to go to any trouble. Someone like Paul needs to have his birth celebrated though, it should not be glazed over with minimum fuss because we’re getting married in September.
It seems like every single day revolves around me- my pain levels, whether I’m too tired to do something, my medication routine, etc- I wish I could give him a whole day devoted to him. A whole day where he has a normal girlfriend that he doesn’t need to worry about. At the very least I want to give him a couple of hours to have a party and a kick ass prezzie.
I know I can be honest enough to say it’s going to be tough to manage a party along with moving house and the wedding, but my goodness is he worth it. I thought there was no better way to celebrate adulthood than with a kid’s party.
I know P will appreciate anything I manage to do but I want him to have the best. He deserves the best. He’ll always have to accept less with me, which is why I’ve told him for a long time that until we say our vows he can leave without me holding a grudge. Plenty of our family and friends have let their tongue slip and told me in no uncertain terms that I’m lucky to have him, which I am but I think our closest family and friends would know he’s lucky to have me too. At first this upset me but now I know that what really matters is what Paul thinks. I can’t wait to celebrate our marriage with all our family and friends but what is most important to me is my groom, as long as he is there and we say our vows before God, that’s all that matters.
I want him to know how much he means to me on his birthday, if he hadn’t been born that day, well I don’t know what my life would be.
Love Katie x