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Our dates aren't always exciting & adventurous but what matters is that we spend quality time together.

Our dates aren’t always exciting & adventurous but what matters is that we spend quality time together.

So today is Friday which in the Davies household means date day! Every week Paul and I set aside at least one hour to do something fun together. We don’t have to spend the whole day together, but since it also our day of rest we can’t do *anything* work related. That’s not really relevant at the moment because we’re both to sick to do any university work anyway. Knowing that this is the one day we don’t have to feel guilty about not working though is a big bonus, it’s really brought back that Friday feeling we used to feel as a kids.

Today I woke up feeling awful, and I mean really awful. My arms were aching a lot and I felt completely exhausted. This isn’t really different from how I’ve been feeling for the last fortnight or so, but it just felt a bit worse this morning. As usual, I have no idea why since all I have done for the last week is rest. Anyway, my health having dictated that going out was off the cards, Paul and I agreed to revert to our secondary plan, a mug decorating date in our lounge. The plan is to get all of our duvets and pillows and make a big comfy fort to get me out of bed and then use Sharpies to decorate a mug to give to each other.

Date 1 (66)

Even though this is a slouchy, not much effort, low energy kind of date purposefully, I still want to make an effort to look nice, in the same way I would have when Paul and I first started dating. Up until recently, I would have known that doing my hair and make up was off the cards and so would have just moped about my appearance. Now, however, I have begun to develop a low energy and pain make up routine that I can do even when I have bad days like this. Since writing out the routine and taking photos would not only take a long time but a large amount of energy I’m going to make a YouTube video instead. It will be uploaded to my YouTube channel soon so make sure you check back there, or even better subscribe so you definitely won’t miss it (never miss an opportunity for a plug.

I don’t think this video is only relevant to sick people though, I don’t see why a normal, healthy person can’t check out this video and use the routine when they’ve only got 10 minutes until they need to leave for work and they look a mess. Or, for someone, I’m especially thinking of young girls, who don’t need to wear much make up.

The whole routine only takes about 5 minutes but I’ve been doing a step, resting for a while, doing another step, etc, so that by the time it’s date time I’m not exhausted. What would you know I even managed to write this blog post. I wonder if it’s something they put in bronzer…

Love Katie x

If there’s anything you’d particularly like to see either here on my blog or over at my YouTube channel, then pop a comment below. I’ve already had some great suggestions but I’m always open to new ideas. Remember, it doesn’t have to be beauty related!

I’m still working on the new layout, but I’m getting there, don’t you think?

 


Phew! It feels good to be back in the land of the living. By that I mean the last week or so has felt as though I am approaching death. Well perhaps that is an overstatement… P and I both caught some kind of illness, sickness, virus, flu, whatever you want to call it. I think it has been years since we were both that unwell. Of course since we were both unwell it felt as though we just hobbled along each day, both of us managing to do what we could. Today is the first day that I have managed to get dressed in over a week! Although I got the migraine far more badly than P did, he seems to not be able to bounce back at all. He is exhausted all of the time, and I feel completely useless, unable to take the burden of duties like cooking from him. As he isn’t particularly unwell he feels like he must continue working on his essays and going to work. He is such a trooper. I am so lucky that I married a man who will never give up.

Silver Valentine heart

I think the silver heart matches
my pink pjs perfectly

Valentine’s Day

With me barely able to lift my head off the pillow and unable to stand the stand the sound of speaking, and P sleeping most of the day, our first Valentine’s day as a married couple was not exactly how we had imagined. The most romantic that things got was when P passed me a tissue. We did exchange gifts though. We had decided to have an ethical Valentines so our gifts had to have some kind of ethical edge, for example the gift would be fair trade or would be handmade. I was given a beautiful silver heart necklace, which I absolutely adore. Once we are both up to scratch we are hoping to have a belated V-day since it is one of my favourite holidays.

 

Shrove Tuesday & Lent

One of the highlights of last week though was Shrove Tuesday or Pancake day. For those of my readers who don’t know what this means, it is the day before Lent begins. Pancakes were originally made to use up all of the “luxuries” (butter, sugar, etc) one would have in the cupboard before the beginning Nutella crepes (2)of lent, where people restrain from such things until Easter. I won’t go into more detail here, I’m sure there are lots of places on the internet that can explain it better than I. Anyway, the lovely moment was that P made me Nutella crepes, one of my favourite things, in the shape of hearts. I didn’t even ask him, he just did it to cheer me. How sweet is that?

That brings me to Lent. This year I have decided to give up puddings for two reasons. Firstly, I think I often eat puddings, not because I’m hungry but because I just crave something sweet as a bad habit. I’d like to break the habit but since breaking a habit takes restraint, this will help me grow the discipline that Lent intends you to. Lastly, the time I would spend eating pudding can be spent praying, as I did when I fasted the internet recently.

Are you giving anything up for Lent?

 

Love Katie x


Oh boy do I have a lot to tell you! I have quite a few blog posts stored up in the tattered notebook in my mind which I hope I can transfer onto screen in the coming week. This post, however, as the name suggests, will focus on an extraordinary experience I had this week.

This week I went back to lectures after the long exam period (there’s another there). As I’ve mentioned countless times before on here, I love studying. I am not like other students who hate going to lectures, I excitedly try ad soak up everything my lecturer has to say. Yes, I am a geek.

I had to spend all Sunday and most of Saturday in bed so I thought my body would be eager to get up and about by Monday morning. No deal. I woke up Monday morning feeling awful. Paul helped me struggle through breakfast and getting dressed, feeding me my favourite cereal and coffee. He is amazing, what a hero.  when he could see that it was becoming more and more evident that I was not going to be able to drive my mobility scooter to university (bare in mind we live less than 4 minutes away , I’ve timed it), he did what we should have done in the first place – prayed. this brought a smile to my face. I know that I have a God who always has my best interests at heart. I find it incredible that I could trust my Heavenly Father completely and yet forget to put my day in his hands.

Anyway back to the story. Paul placed his hands on me and prayed that I would not only manage to get to my lecture but also that I would be able to concentrate on what the lecturer was saying. Just over an hour later he picked me up from my first lecture of the day. I had a giant smile on my face.

“It was so good, I loved it. I felt fine and could take it all in. I think I took really good notes too” I told P, a bit too loudly.

I went to two lectures yesterday, one today and I managed 40 minutes of work this morning too. This is incredible. The cynics among you might think that I am just experiencing a placebo effect or something. I am not saying I am completely healed, I still need my painkillers, and I needed a nap yesterday too, but I cannot think of another word to describe what is happening other then ‘miracle’. I have not even been able to mange 10 minutes of concentration for over a month, I’ve tried so many times and now all of a sudden I can attend lectures and read journal articles. Amazing.

I don’t know whether this is a beginning of a complete healing or whether this partial healing will only last a set amount of time. I know that  I have a God who I am trust and if I put my life in his hands will use all the pain, exhaustion, frustration and tear for something great.

I decided to share this experience on here to bring you hope. I know many of my readers are sick themselves or maybe you’re in another type of situation that you need breakthrough in. I know this post might make you uncomfortable, there’s a lot of pain and emotion associated with healing. I know because I’ve been and am still going through it myself. The disappointment of not being healed can make you want to give up. It seems to take up too much energy to keep trusting and hoping. If we stop believing though, we give in, our sickness wins.

Bible says we are more than conquerors. If you put your trust in God, He might not take your life where you want it to go or might not intervene in the way you want Him to but you can be certain that His plan is the best plan. That’s why, even though I want to be well and healthy, I know that I am in the right place, I have complete faith in him.

If this answer to Paul’s prayer has taught me anything its that I need to pray every morning and put my day in his hands.

Love Katie x


Life’s all about moments of impact and how they changes our lives forever.
But what if one day you could no longer remember any of them?

 Yesterday I re-watched The Vow, a film about a woman who suffers from anaemia after a car accidents, and her husband’s fight to get her to fall in love with him all over him again. When I saw the film in the cinema, I must admit I cried, the story is so heart-wrenching. Imagine my horror then when I realised that the film was based on a true story.

I know it’s pretty cliché to write a blog post about a film, but I think we can make an exception because a) I watch a lot of films so it was bound to happen at some point and b) because this film was based on a true story. Something about this film deeply disturbed me. The thought that I could wake up any day and lose Paul or any of my loved ones is a very sobering one. I know this idea is thrown around a lot, but when you actually stop and think about it, it changes the way you act. It means that I actually take thirty seconds to give my husband a proper goodbye, and I never want to sleep on my anger. It feels like I’ve heard a lot of stories of tragedy lately, it’s easy to let those things roll off my back, safe in the certainty something like that would never happen to me.

The other thing that stopped me in my tracks about this film was thinking about how you manage to come to terms with such a tragedy. Not even just come to terms with it, but to actually find the strength day in, day out to fight for your marriage. That is real love. I got the answer to my questions when I looked up the book. The couple managed to get through such a tough trial through their faith in God.

If you haven’t guessed already, I am on my way to Amazon to order the book. As a newly wed I am always on the lookout for couples whose faith has strengthened their marriage, especially in times of trials and suffering. Expect more posts…

Love Katie x

 

The Vow (DVD + UV Copy) [2012]

The Vow  [Paperback]

The Vow: The True Events that Inspired the Movie  [Kindle]


21-DayChallenge

Today is day three of Gretchen Rubin’s ’21 Day Relationship Challenge’. Every day I receive an email giving me a challenge which will bring more happiness into my relationship. At least that’s the plan.

I have been a big fan of Rubin ever since I read her book ‘The Happiness Project‘ (see below). Her ethos is not to buy more stuff or make massive changes to your life, but to find more joy and happiness in the things and people you already have, by making small changes to your day.

I don’t have a huge amount to say about the challenge yet, I think I need more time to see the impact it has on my marriage, my friendships and other relationships. I am enjoying it so much that I wanted to share it with you on here, to give you a chance to try it out for yourself.

You don’t have to be married or have a boyfriend to do the challenge, in the comments section on the blog, lots of people are doing the challenge with their friends, their daughters, the kids they teach, all kinds of different relationships.

You can find out more about it on The Happiness Project blog.

The books I love by Gretchen Rubin:

The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun

Happier at Home: Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Lif (Thorndike Press Large Print Nonfiction)

Let me know if you decide to take up the challenge too.

Love Katie x

 


Source: Google images

Source: Google images

Happy new year from the Davieses!

Blwyddyn Newydd Dda wrth yr Davieses!

(Paul, Didi & me) 

I would have loved to spend NYE with family, but for several reasons we couldn’t. Instead we enjoyed a quiet night just the three of us. Should I be counting my kitten? The day before, after a bit of internet searching I had found a couple of ideas to make our night fun, but low in energy expenditure. I saw a great idea on one forum, to eat healthy snacks instead of junk food, on the basis that you would wake up on 1st January feeling like you had already gotten back on track with a balanced diet after Christmas. I took this idea and ran with it. We had a yummy fruit platter, started a puzzle, played one of our new games (great Christmas present) and watched a film on iplayer. We spent the night doing things we enjoyed, without compromising my health. This meant that I woke up today, able to start 2013 the way I want it to continue, able to utilise my energy to work on my degree.

I was saddened to see many people on Facebook and Twitter writing negative messages about 2012. I know that for many people, there are a lot of bad memories associated with the last year, but I also know that most of these people had so many things to celebrate and be thankful for too. For P and I, the last year hasn’t always been easy, my health especially has deteriorated, which is both frustrating and de-moralising, but we would rather focus on all the fantastic things that happened over the last year, from the little things like the time we managed to go to the park, to the huge things, we got married. Of course, we have more to celebrate than a lot of people because we got married, one of the best things to happen to anyone.

Nothing like a night in with these two crazy cats

Nothing like a night in with these two crazy cats

I do believe the best is yet to come though, I don’t say that just because we’re young and I think I’ll get better, but because I know that God never provides a dull life. I can’t think of a single person I know who has a close relationship with God and a boring life. A life of adventure awaits all of us. Sometimes that adventure takes us through valleys, but even those awful times can have purpose when put into the hands of our Creator. Just writing these things makes me so excited for what lies ahead for me and Paul this year. Part of me is terrified, P is due to complete his degree this year, which throws up so many questions about how we will manage my health and stay financially afloat, but when I look in the Bible, I see that I have nothing to fear as long as I have God with me.

Many of people would have hated to spend NYE the way I did, but I felt perfectly contented. It’s easy to become disheartened because of all of things we don’t have,  but it’s difficult not to feel blessed when you count all of the things you do have. We should never take the basics like a roof over our head and food on the table for granted. The headlines of increasing unemployment and homelessness should teach us that.

At midnight, we tuned into BBC1 because I love fireworks. I might not be able to attend the Calennig celebrations in Cardiff, but I can see the wonderful firework display in London on my laptop. My favourites are the ones which follow the London Eye around in a circle. One year they used the Eye as a countdown clock for the last 60 seconds of the year. Amazing. With a big grin on my face, I kissed my husband at midnight, and thanked God for blessing me with such a wonderful partner for life.

Source: Google images

Source: Google images

Thank you so much for reading my blog in 2012, I hope you will continue to do so this year. I want to take Chronically Katie further this year, to raise even more awareness about invisible illnesses. This cause is more important than ever before, as the pages of the newspaper fill with articles persecuting patients and my inbox fills with desperate stories of those who are refused benefits and care. Please help me to help disspell the myths and misunderstandings so that fighters of invisible illnesses can get the care and support they both need and deserve.

Love Katie x


On 11th June Paulie turns 21. Although it doesn’t actually gain you more legal rights in the UK, it still feels like a big marker- the beginning of adulthood. I cannot think of a better excuse to spoil Paul, although in his characteristically selfless way P has said he doesn’t want me to go to any trouble. Someone like Paul needs to have his birth celebrated though, it should not be glazed over with minimum fuss because we’re getting married in September.

It seems like every single day revolves around me- my pain levels, whether I’m too tired to do something, my medication routine, etc- I wish I could give him a whole day devoted to him. A whole day where he has a normal girlfriend that he doesn’t need to worry about. At the very least I want to give him a couple of hours to have a party and a kick ass prezzie.

I know I can be honest enough to say it’s going to be tough to manage a party along with moving house and the wedding, but my goodness is he worth it. I thought there was no better way to celebrate adulthood than with a kid’s party.

I know P will appreciate anything I manage to do but I want him to have the best. He deserves the best. He’ll always have to accept less with me, which is why I’ve told him for a long time that until we say our vows he can leave without me holding a grudge. Plenty of our family and friends have let their tongue slip and told me in no uncertain terms that I’m lucky to have him, which I am but I think our closest family and friends would know he’s lucky to have me too. At first this upset me but now I know that what really matters is what Paul thinks. I can’t wait to celebrate our marriage with all our family and friends but what is most important to me is my groom, as long as he is there and we say our vows before God, that’s all that matters.

I want him to know how much he means to me on his birthday, if he hadn’t been born that day, well I don’t know what my life would be.

Love Katie x



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